A damsel, not in distress.

Centuries-old literature portrayed women as fragile beings that only have two functions in life: to bear children and to serve men. We have gone a long way from not being able to own land, open our own bank account, or get this, pay our own drinks in a pub! Fortunately, we can now get jobs that we weren’t thought capable of, like being successful accountants and lawyers. Yet, despite all these changes, the gap still clearly exists – even 100+ years later.

The 1970 Equal Pay Act paved the way for better wages for women, but why are we still fighting for it today? I, myself, have experienced this in my past career when I found out that I was paid less than my male counterpart who had a similar skill level and expertise. Sadly as most women do, I turned the blind eye hoping that one day my employer would recognize my value. Of course, that didn’t happen. I did get the chance to express my sentiments when I resigned and yes, they made a counteroffer: a higher position and salary. Nevertheless, I stood my ground. l said what I had to say, encouraging the management to make some changes. 

On the other hand, we can finally report domestic violence to the authorities, but that is just the tip of the iceberg, isn’t it? Is it because of an individual person’s psychologically disturbed mind? Or is it actually due to gender norms? We grew up in a society where strong, powerful men are idolized, while women in power are called bitches. 

Did you know that before 2013, French women were forbidden to wear trousers? I guess that’s one step towards equality, but why is do schools these days ban students (even kids in grade school) from wearing certain types of clothing? Authorities urge parents that “It’s for your children’s safety,” but is it really? Shouldn’t we be educating these young impressionable boys that the female body shouldn’t be sexually objectified Imagine what kind of men they would grow up to be with these kinds of rules set against girls.

Lo and behold, for a society so advanced and intelligent enough to travel galaxies and build AI, we disregarded what really matters – humanity. Be it gender and race equality or LGBTQ acceptance, we are light years away from making our world a less dangerous place to live in.

But we know how much we deserve it and we shall keep striving for it, no matter how long it takes. My alter ego, The Modern Day Damsel, stands for equality in all forms regardless of your gender or skin color. You don’t have to go to rallies to show your support or post about it on every social media platform. It can be as little as correcting your peers and speaking up to your employers. Damsels nowadays have to learn to stand on their own and stop waiting for a fictional knight in shining armor to save the day.

Ladies, we are not barbie dolls that they can just play around with so go ahead and be proud of the boss woman that you have become. Wear those damn trousers loud and proud, and never ever be ashamed to show your skin. But of course, a pepper spray is always handy for those thick-headed monsters.

That’s all for now,

The Modern Day Damsel ♡

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