The Modern Era: Damsels and What-Not

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Year 2013. That was the era when I finally awoke from my deep slumber filled with unrealistic dreams of handsome princes and magical kisses. It was the era where I finally realized that damsels can be strong on their own. Read on below for the awakening of The Modern Day Damsel.

Waking Up Without Prince Charming

She finally realized that even if she remains to be a damsel in distress, she won’t need a prince to come and save her. She eventually got tired of waiting for him to chivalrously come out of the shadows and sweep her off her feet. The clock kept on ticking and every man she turns to transforms into a hideous monster that is just out to hurt her.

But despite that fact, she still turns to her silver lining – The Enchanted Rose. If she stopped relying on men to save her before the last petal fell, her white knight will find her. Those classic stories of couples falling head-over-heels in love with each other didn’t just magically pop out of nowhere, did it? Those wondrous tales were inspired by true-to-life relationships for they are not only meant to be told, they are meant to be felt, too.

This time around, she will be slaying her own dragons. She will scurry away from despicable witches handing out yummy apples. She will have to survive with that one glass slipper and she won’t ever have to give up her beautiful voice for a pair of legs. No more compromises in the name of love, not until she gets rid of every villain out there. Gone are the days of princesses waiting for princes. Even the 11th Disney Princess Merida didn’t need a man to fight her battles.

The Modern Day Damsel

The damsels in the modern era don’t need a man to protect them. We have come a long way from ‘just’ being servants to our husbands. No, not in my household darling. These days, we meet half way. These days, we build our empire together.

The modern era comes with a no holds barred attitude. It won’t be like the old days where men exert great effort showing you how much you mean to them. Remember those good ‘ole harana‘s we had in the Philippines, longhand love letters and measly things like opening doors. Yes, those swoon-worthy actions sound appealing.

But, men changed and how we approach love did, too. The important thing is his affection towards you. He might not follow all those classic courtship rules, but you will know if his feelings are genuine. Do you really need someone who buys you everything you need, but cheats on you every chance he gets?

The modern day damsel does not settle. Time has changed and falling in love doesn’t require material things to show sincerity, love and genuineness.

The Enchanted Rose

Love doesn’t always work out the way you plan it. Not all those perfect scenes in your fave chick flicks or romantic novels end up the way they do in real life. Sometimes, life has its own messed up version. Who knows? You might meet him online, fall in love and live happy forever. Yes, your first meeting might not sound romantic. It might not be a perfect “Kids, this is how I met your father.” story. Who cares, right? You love each other and that will be the only thing that matter.
So, every time you experience a heartbreak and start to lose hope in finding your true love, unleash that modern day damsel in you. Let this statement from one of my fave Disney series serve as your mantra from now on:

Listen. You’re going to fall in love so many times
before you find the one you’ll be with forever.
So, think of it this way; you’re one heartbreak closer
to happily ever after.
– Wizards of Waverly Place

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